Disciplining our children should be for the purpose of conforming them to the image of Christ. As Godly parents, we are mandated to equip our children with the tools to make Godly decisions. God says in Proverbs 22:6...Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it. It is our responsibility, our reasonable duty to provide wisdom, guidance, love and Godly examples. In doing so, we place the hope that our due diligence and trust in the Lord will ignite a light in our children that other children will see. That they become the salt of the earth, the light of the world. (Matthew 5:13-14)
Social change begins with OUR attitude toward our brother/neighbor and it extends to our children. Our youth who observes what is happening in today's society and our reactions to it, develop an opinion/attitude as a result. Without proper guidance, without wisdom, without prayer, they are left to their own demise.
Let's not be a willing party to their crimes, their behavior and ultimately their death. For the Bible says...Discipline your son (daughter) for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his (her) death.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Monday, August 17, 2009
Friend's mother not being fair!
The other night while sitting in the backyard listening to teenage girls giggle, sing and debate about whether or not a friend's mother was being fair, reminded me of when I was their age. Thinking that at 15 years old my friends and I thought we knew better than our parents too. HMMMMM! I contemplated sharing my wisdom thinking that it may stop their freedom to speak in my presence, and my eagerness to hear their thoughts...but I had the need to plant a seed after hearing what they were saying!
From their conversation their friend was being shipped off to her father'sfor no reason at all. But in the same breath they said that she and her mother did not get along. But the mom really was being over dramatic and selfish. Their friend and her mother were in constant disagreements with eachother, their friend thinking that her mother was being unfair with rules of the household and not letting her do the things she wanted to do. And on top of that the mother had just re-married and to them it seemed that she was putting her new husband first over their friend. I listened to as much as I could stomach and I couldn't allow them to continue to bad mouth the mother for choices she makes concerning her daughter...choices made even before she married her new husband. Choices that provided wisdom and guidance. (This is according to what the girls were saying but didn't realize it.)
I said to them, " The bottom line is not the selfishness of their friends mother, because mom is doing what mom should do...(give proper guidance and limits) but...it is the decision that their friend has to make in order to remain living with her mother instead of her father and that is following the rules of her mother." Imagine the look I got! Not a very popular look. Oh well, been there done that...nothn new under the sun!
From their conversation their friend was being shipped off to her father'sfor no reason at all. But in the same breath they said that she and her mother did not get along. But the mom really was being over dramatic and selfish. Their friend and her mother were in constant disagreements with eachother, their friend thinking that her mother was being unfair with rules of the household and not letting her do the things she wanted to do. And on top of that the mother had just re-married and to them it seemed that she was putting her new husband first over their friend. I listened to as much as I could stomach and I couldn't allow them to continue to bad mouth the mother for choices she makes concerning her daughter...choices made even before she married her new husband. Choices that provided wisdom and guidance. (This is according to what the girls were saying but didn't realize it.)
I said to them, " The bottom line is not the selfishness of their friends mother, because mom is doing what mom should do...(give proper guidance and limits) but...it is the decision that their friend has to make in order to remain living with her mother instead of her father and that is following the rules of her mother." Imagine the look I got! Not a very popular look. Oh well, been there done that...nothn new under the sun!
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