Friend's mother not being fair!

The other night while sitting in the backyard listening to teenage girls giggle, sing and debate about whether or not a friend's mother was being fair, reminded me of when I was their age. Thinking that at 15 years old my friends and I thought we knew better than our parents too. HMMMMM! I contemplated sharing my wisdom thinking that it may stop their freedom to speak in my presence, and my eagerness to hear their thoughts...but I had the need to plant a seed after hearing what they were saying!

From their conversation their friend was being shipped off to her father'sfor no reason at all. But in the same breath they said that she and her mother did not get along. But the mom really was being over dramatic and selfish. Their friend and her mother were in constant disagreements with eachother, their friend thinking that her mother was being unfair with rules of the household and not letting her do the things she wanted to do. And on top of that the mother had just re-married and to them it seemed that she was putting her new husband first over their friend. I listened to as much as I could stomach and I couldn't allow them to continue to bad mouth the mother for choices she makes concerning her daughter...choices made even before she married her new husband. Choices that provided wisdom and guidance. (This is according to what the girls were saying but didn't realize it.)

I said to them, " The bottom line is not the selfishness of their friends mother, because mom is doing what mom should do...(give proper guidance and limits) but...it is the decision that their friend has to make in order to remain living with her mother instead of her father and that is following the rules of her mother." Imagine the look I got! Not a very popular look. Oh well, been there done that...nothn new under the sun!